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ID in the lifestyle? BDSM

We usually choose from some of these archetypes:

Kinky (both all encompassing and at the same time not)

Dom / Sub, Switch

Top / Bottom, Switch

Master / Slave or Owner / Property

Sadist / Masochist, Sadomasochist,

Het, Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transsexual

Littles - Daddy / Mommy – Little Girl / Little Boy

Daddy / girl or boy - but Not Littles

Animals / Trainers – Pony, pups, kittens, etc

We further identify by what we do from all the associated fetishes such as:

BD – Bondage and Discipline
DS - Domance, Submission
SM – Sadism, Masochism


Exhibitionism

Leather

Rope

Steel Restraints

Cages

Needles

Rubber

Latex

Uniforms

Poly

Cigars

Maids

Foot Fetish

** A 1990 Kinsey Institute report stated that 5% to 10% of Americans occasionally engage in sexual activities related to BDSM.

You're not alone! Call me and let's explore!

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50 shades of *gagging noise*



Glad I'm not the only that thinks this way...

Garbage.

1) "Suddenly, he sits up and tugs my panties off and throws them on the floor. Pulling off his boxer briefs, his erection springs free."

2) "Desire pools dark and deadly in my groin."
3) "He reaches between my legs and pulls on the blue string… what! And… a gently pulls my tampon out and tosses it into the nearby toilet. Holy fuck. Sweet mother of all… Jeez."

4) “I line up the white ball and with a swift clean stroke, hit the center ball of the triangle square on with such force that a striped ball spins and plunges into the top right pocket. I’ve scattered the rest of the balls.”

5) “Don’t you like the butt drawer?”

6) “Argon? It rings a distant bell from chemistry class—an element, I think.”

7) “I sit up and reach for the orange juice, drinking it down too quickly. It’s delicious, ice cold, and it makes my mouth a much better place.”

8) Christian: “Dr. Green is coming to sort you out…”
Ana: “Why?”
Christian: “Because I hate condoms
…” Ana: “It’s my body.”
Christian: “It’s mine, too.”

9) “He’s said such loving things today … But how long will he want to do this without wanting to beat the crap out of me.”
10) “My subconscious looks on with approval, her normally pursed mouth smiling, and I am the supreme puppet master.”

spring thoughts

So ready for spring.
Bout to take a vacay.
Wish I could find some good red lipstick.
I've got Taylor Swift's "Red" stuck in my head




"I'm hoooome."

whatever happened to Miley anyhow...bit of a shame.

I mean I get it...she's finding her...but there's something to be said for this:


I mean the girl can sing.

Anyhow back to my randomness...

Other thoughts:
I'm tired of everyone being "down" I think we should start a positive movement!
I'm tired of everyone feeling "sick" I think we should start a health movement!


If you read this:I challenge you TODAY go outside, get some fresh air, hopefully sunshine and drink at least 50 ounces of water!

let me know you read this and/or did it and I'll send you a reward!

spring has sprung...

A day in the life of a Domme...

11:38 am: Woke up nice and early *grin*

11:40 Padded up the hall to the kitchen to find that dave the houseboy (my corn-fed-subbie-house boy that is around from time to time) had put on some java --wtg!

Begin taking calls on Niteflirt. Some go great, some are new callers. All are fun!

Had a new person decide to give up control -- signed a contract, working on putting him on a stricter, Mistress Approved Schedule!

Took a break about 7pm for dinner.

Last call of the night, a foot fetish call...hmmm now if someone was here to rub my feet!

It's good to be the Domme.

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BDSM is good for you.

Bondage. It’s the new therapy.

According to science, chains and whips not only excite you; they’re also excellent for relieving stress.

Bondage is definitely having a moment, mostly thanks to Fifty Shades of Grey – coming to a cinema near you on Valentine’s Day.

And science is out to prove that a little spanking can be good for the soul, claiming some forms of BDSM may have anti-anxiety effects, as well as other mental health benefits.

A recent article by Roni Jacobson in New York Magazine investigated the positive links between BDSM and anxiety levels.

50 shades 2
Let me relax you
One woman who practices Shibari, a form of Japanese rope bondage, told Jacobson: ‘I do a lot of yoga and meditation. I think rope can have the same effect. When you’re tied up it’s like you’re not responsible for anything else that happens and there’s a sense of freedom in that. It’s one of the few moments where I don’t have to worry about all of my responsibilities.’

Another 22-year-old Shibari model called Gorgone agreed: ‘It’s presence. It feels like an opportunity to completely let go and to be completely present at the same time.’

‘There’s a certain release from anxiety you get from it,’ she added.

Several studies have backed up the theory. One such study has suggested that the reduction in stress experienced during bondage might be explained by how it affects the brain.

The pain experienced during bondage causes blood to flow away from the brain to the parts of the body affected. This means less blood-flow to the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain that regulates memory and executive control. This leads to a feeling of oneness, of calm.

Other research has suggested that those who like to indulge in BDSM are typically already less neurotic than those who prefer more traditional ‘vanilla’ sex.

We wonder if watching Jamie Dornan in 50 Shades 32,476 times has a similar effect on your stress levels? Probably can’t hurt.

Mr Grey will see you now.

taken from here: http://metro.co.uk/2015/02/06/bondage-is-good-for-relieving-stress-says-science-5051889/

the more you know.

The Gain from Pain --why BDSM can be good for you!

Sadomasochism, or sexual enjoyment from giving or receiving pain, may be a meditative experience and in some cases may lead to an altered state of consciousness, new research suggests. Consensual sadomasochism was long considered pathological, but psychologists studying people interested in BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism) have failed to find evidence that these sexual practices are harmful. One study, published in May 2013, actually found that practitioners of BDSM were better off than the general population in some ways, including having secure relationships and lower anxiety. Currently, the psychiatrists' definitive handbook, the DSM-5, lists BDSM as a paraphilia, or unusual sexual fixation, but only classifies it as a disorder if it causes harm. If sadomasochism is not a pathology as once believed, the question is why some people engage in these painful sexual behaviors, said James Ambler, a graduate student in psychology at Northern Illinois University. "It seems, on the surface, very paradoxical," Ambler told Live Science. [Hot Stuff? 10 Unusual Sexual Fixations] The gain from pain To find out, Ambler recruited "switches," or people in the SM community who like both receiving pain and giving pain. Fourteen switches, 10 of whom were women, agreed to be assigned one of those two roles for the night by roll of the die. Before and after their sexual experience, the volunteers completed a cognitive test called the Stroop task, in which they saw a word for a color written in a color other than what the word said ("blue" written in red, for example). It's hard for the brain to read the word correctly when the color of the letters clashes with the meaning, making this a widely used test of cognitive abilities. The volunteers also filled out questionnaires about their feelings of "flow" during the sadomasochistic experience. Flow is a state of focus and enjoyment that people feel when fully immersed in a task. The results showed that people playing the pain-receiving role showed poorer Stroop task scores, which are seen with short-term reductions of functions in a part of the brain called the dorsolateral prefrontal cortexAmbler said. This region is linked to executive control, working memory and other higher-level functions. The pain that comes with sadomasochistic sex may cause the brain to shunt blood flow away from this region, causing a subjectively altered state of consciousness — and the appeal of SM, Ambler said. "Part of the reason these SM activities may be so extreme, at some level, is that they're particularly effective at causing the brain to change its distribution of blood flow," he said. [51 Sultry Facts About Sex] People on the giving end of the pain got benefits, too. Both sides of the equation reported similar levels of flow during their sexual "scene." Spiritual, not sexual The findings hint that sadomasochism isn't entirely about sex. A second study, conducted by Ellen Lee, a graduate student in psychology at Northern Illinois University, with her advisor, Brad Sagarin, and their BDSM Research Team, focused on a nonsexual — but very painful — ritual performed by some in the community. Called the "Dance of Souls," this ritual involves people getting temporary skin piercings, through which hooks attached to ropes are placed. The ropes of one person are connected to those on others in the group or to a fixed object and are pulled taut as music or drums are played. These events are also known as "energy pulls" and are seen as primarily spiritual, not sexual, Sagarin told Live Science.

The researchers surveyed 22 participants in one of these rituals at a kink community conference in California. Five participants who were hooked agreed to participate, as well as nine supporters (who make sure group members are OK during the ritual) and eight observers. The participants filled out surveys about their stress, emotions, flow and the extent to which they felt their own selves overlapped with others at the event. They also gave saliva samples to test their cortisol, a hormone that spikes during stress.

Unsurprisingly, given the pain, cortisol levels went up during the ritual. But something odd happened: Participants reported feeling less stressed.

"We see this interesting disconnect," Sagarin said. "We think this may be indicative of the types of altered states of consciousness people might be seeking."

The effect might not be so different from what people experience when they push their bodies during yoga, or even during meditation, he said. People who complete the energy pull ritual also report feeling more connected to others, he added.

The brain effects Ambler found might provide an explanation. The dorsolateral prefrontal cortex is responsible, in part, for distinguishing self from other, he said. If less blood flows to the brain during these intensely painful experiences, the result may be a feeling of oneness.

The researchers hope that future research will involve closer, minute-by-minute monitoring of participants to delve into how the physiological and the psychological are linked. The findings are interesting both because they illuminate that link and because sadomasochism may not be quite as fringe as psychologists once thought, the researchers said.

"Research would suggest that a substantial minority of people do either fantasize or participate in these activities," Sagarin said. "There is relevance to it in terms of the number of people either directly or indirectly involved."

The researchers presented their findings last week at the annual meeting of the Society for Personality and Social Psychology in Austin, Texas.

interesting affirmations

Announcement: Wish you could change your past? Learn to let go and create a life you love with the Tiny Buddha course! 60 Life Lessons: Insights from Oprah’s Life Class By Lori Deschene Call me a traitor to my gender, but I didn’t grow up watching Oprah. I didn’t have parties with other ladies that involved a television and tissues. I didn’t fill my library according to her book club recommendations. And I didn’t live my life around the question, “What would Oprah do?” Considering my penchant for drama back then, I was more likely to curl up to Jerry Springer than a show without paternity tests and chair throwing. But recently Oprah called to me. Literally. It started when the network reached out to my friend Mastin Kipp of The Daily Love to include him in a webcast for Oprah’s Life Class. I read his excited blog posts about receiving this opportunity, and I was thrilled for him, but having never gotten into her first chapter, I didn’t feel drawn to her next. I also wondered if sometimes Oprah’s celebrity overpowers the messages. Then I watched the webcast, and I realized there is something very powerful going on within this movement. I fell in love with Oprah’s Life Class—both because Oprah leads with humility and authenticity, and because she’s attracted a vibrant community of people learning to let go of pain and open up to joy. As I absorbed myself in the archives of webcasts, I watched people forming new insights, having mini epiphanies, and most importantly, bonding with each other through their common struggles and potential. I wanted to be part of that. Just after my marathon Life Class session, Oprah’s people called and invited me to attend a live taping of her webcast, on Mastin’s recommendation. I’d now have a chance to be part of it, up close. While there were certain spiritual conversations that created a bit of a disconnect for me, I walked away from the experience feeling touched, inspired, and eager to share the work they’re doing there. I considered giving you the highlights of the webcasts from this season, but you can easily watch those yourself. So instead, I’d like to share some of the most profound insights I gleaned from Oprah’s community of “students” in their answers to one of her pre-show questions. (Submitted to her anonymously, unless otherwise indicated): On Self-Love

1. I know now that I must validate myself before I want others to validate me. I need to stop putting myself at the bottom of the pile. ~Cocomo614

2. I know that my time is just as valuable as anyone else’s and I know I don’t have to apologize for putting me back on my to-do list.

3. When I take care of myself, I am confirming my worth to myself. If I give to myself first (time, rest, love), I have more to give to others.

4. Not to be so hard on myself…been through a lot in life but I still deserve to be happy in this life. ~@nerlster

5. I know that it’s okay to have my own opinions and tell the truth.

6. It’s easy to give up on yourself. The hard part is staying focused on being a better you.

7. I know I am a product of what I believe to be true. I know I hold the power… all the power to change when I want to. I have to commit!

8. I have value and merit, that I am intelligent and worthy of love and respect.

9. I don’t have to let my past define who I am today.

10. I have finally realized I am all those good things about myself that others have seen all along.

positvity...and I'm guilty of this too! NO MORE DRAMA!

Why do people feed on drama? This isn't aimed at anyone in particular; but I suppose it's aimed more at my sisters than my brothers. Men tend to not be over-dramatic unless they are sissies or gay...but the drama...seriously? Look we all have them...bad days, bad moments, bad years even.

I challenge you right now.
You, reading this.

I challenge YOU to ditch the drama--male or female...sub or dom(me)...gay, straight or bi.

seriously, lose the drama--you'll be much more productive!

that's all...

happy

keeping with this theme across the board!



Watch Your Thoughts, They Become Words; Watch Your Words, They Become Actions

huh...the odd things that happen...

alright...so let's start with a guy calling today...(now remember kiddies that I am Mistress DJ) this implies that I am, in fact, a Dominatrix. I am not a standard vanilla pso (god bless those girls on the real tho) nor am I submissive...or a switch...ok, to One...but that doesn't apply here...

so dude calls me...and proceeds to call me "hey whore, so I feel like abusing a stupid whore like you...what do you think of that..."

me : long dramatic pause, that caused this tard a sound 2.50.

then, "well, it would occur to me that I am not the one that is stupid as so far, I've made about 9.00 off of your have-to-pay-for-sex-ass...and when you get a hot girl to talk to you...you say this?....are you so slow minded that you cannot find free porn to jack off to?"

him: dumbfounded pause that cost him a sound 2.50

me: "that's what I thought, now, since you obviously don't comprehend complex words with more than one syllable....let me break it down...

anyhow...a few minutes later...and $64 later...he hung up...lol whatever...

THEN>.......

i get a guy calling my femme domme line...

"hey baby"

"Um, that's Mistress, ma'am, or maybe DJ"

"ok baby"

smh...

go through the guided masturbation....the whole time getting called baby...

smh

fucker.

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so...that said...
it's been nasty cold here...like frozen pipes breaking at my house cold....

so...

be nice/respectful to your Mistress or pay the price.

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oh yeah...and for you jack wads that haven't figured it out....

Think Your way to orgasm? possible or not?

Several months ago, Lady Gaga told an interviewer for New Yorkmagazine, “I don’t know if this is too much, but I can actually mentally give myself an orgasm. You know, sense memory is quite powerful.” Mentally give herself an orgasm? Is that even possible? Well, for you lucky women who have experienced the sensation yourself, you know it is, and for all you doubters or non-believers, new research suggests it’s not only possible to achieve a mental orgasm, but it’s something that can be learned, too. Dr. Barry Komisaruk, co-author ofThe Science Of Orgasm, says that brain image scanners show that “the pleasure centers of the brain associated with orgasm light up in women who think themselves to orgasm in exactly the same way as in women who orgasm through more conventional means.” These women who thought themselves to orgasm may have all experienced the same sensation, but they all arrived there in different ways. “Some women used a combination of breathing exercises and fantasy,” Komisaruk says. “While others used their imagination and pelvic floor exercises.” Even their fantasies varied. “Some imagined erotic scenarios. But others imagined very romantic scenes such as a lover whispering to them. Others pictured more abstract sensual experiences, such as walking along a beach or imagining waves of energy moving through their body.”
So, is thinking yourself to orgasm as easy as fantasizing some sexy scenes and doing a little deep breathing? Not exactly, but that’s a big part of it, sex researchers say. According to sex therapist Paula Hall: “Women in particular need to feel relaxed and safe in order to let go and enjoy sex fully.” So doing exercises that alleviatestress and anxiety and make us feel more deeply relaxed will go a long way in helping women reach orgasm, either mentally or through physical stimulation. Dr. Komisaruk regularly sees women who both have trouble reaching orgasms and those “with intense feelings of sexual desire that don’t go away even when they do have orgasms.” He coaches them through MRI scans, giving them mental techniques to use, like counting and visualization, that will increase or decrease sexual excitement. The thought is that as these women “see images of their brains lighting up and cooling down in response to their thoughts and mental exercises,” they can eventually use these techniques in the bedroom, too. So, ladies: counting, visualization, and breathing — that’s apparently all it takes to think oneself to orgasm. And if you don’t get there the first time, try, try, try again. At least, that’s what the doctors advise.


I didn't write this...however I did find it fascinating...and wanted to share.

What do you think?

My name is DJ and I'll be your Mistress Tonight...

Give it up...do as I say...

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prepare for nerd domination!

Interesting article on yahoo:

http://shine.yahoo.com/healthy-living/10-bizarre-things-happen-while-sleep-181800737.html
thought my readers might enjoy the nerdgasm.
By Jane Bianchi
Sleep-such a peaceful word, isn't it? It evokes images of closed eyes, slow breathing, dreamsand relaxation. But while you're dozing, your body's systems are doing lots of crazy things that will blow your mind. Don't worry: They're all normal. Still, you may never think of hitting the hay the same way after reading this. Photo by Getty Images.
1.Your body temperature drops.
Just before you fall asleep, your core body temperature begins to decrease, says Michael Breus, PhD, a clinical psychologist and sleepspecialist in Scottsdale, AZ, and author of The Sleep Doctor's Diet Plan: Lose Weight Through Better Sleep. This drop signals to your brain to release melatonin, which affects your circadian rhythm (or sleep/wake cycle) and tells your body it's time for bed. Your temperature is lowest around 2:30 A.M., so if you're able to, program your thermostat to rise one degree at that time for an hour or two. Otherwise, you may find yourself stealing your spouse's covers for extra warmth.
You lose weight.
One reason you should always step on a scale in the morning, not in the evening: You lose water through perspiring and breathing out humid air during the night, according to Dr. Breus. This happens during the day too, but eating and drinking while you're awake negates any weight loss. If you're sleeping just four or five hours per night, you could be canceling out whatever smart diet and exercise choices you're making during the day. To whittle your waistline, get at least seven hours of sleep per night.

3.You get taller. You won't exactly wake up feeling like the Jolly Green Giant, but you do gain height while you sleep. "The discs in your spine that act as cushions between the bones rehydrate and get bigger because the weight of your body isn't pressing down on them, like it is when you're standing," says Dr. Breus. "If you have a firm mattress, sleeping on your side in the fetal position may be best for getting taller because it decreases the load on your back."
When you're resting, your body doesn't need to work as hard or pump as much blood, so these systems slow down. Blood pressure needs to dip at night so your cardiac muscle and circulatory system have time to relax and repair, says Dr. Breus. It's especially important for people with high blood pressure to get at least seven hours of sleep to experience that temporary drop-it reduces the risk for heart disease. And if you have sleep apnea, get treatment right away because that condition can increase nighttime blood pressure, says Dr. Breus.

5. Your muscles are temporarily paralyzed. Sounds scary, but it's actually what keeps you from acting out your dreams, says Lisa Shives, MD, an internist and sleep medicine specialist in Evanston, IL, and the medical expert for SleepBetter.org. Comedian Mike Birbiglia, the writer and star of the film Sleepwalk With Me, has a rare condition called REM Behavior Disorder. In his performances, he shares how dangerous it can be to do whatever weird thing is going on in your head in the middle of the night. So this is one type of paralysis you want.

6. Your eyes twitch.
During REM (aka rapid eye movement) sleep, your eyes dart from side to side, not that scientists know why exactly. Dreams occur during REM sleep, so it can be disconcerting to wake up during this deep-not light-sleep stage. You might feel most refreshed if you wake up right after you cycle through all the sleep stages, with REM occurring toward the end. Though it varies from person to person, one sleep cycle usually lasts 90 minutes, so try sleeping in intervals of 90 minutes. For example, you may find it easier to awaken after sleeping for 7.5 hours (five cycles) than after 8 hours (5⅓ cycles).

You get sexually aroused.
Just as men get erections during REM sleep, women become sexually stimulated then, too. And no, it's not tied to whether you're having that Brad Pitt dream again. Your brain is more active during REM sleep (since you're dreaming), so it requires more oxygen-as a result, blood flow all over the body increases. "There is natural clitoral engorgement because blood rushes to that area and causes swelling," says Dr. Shives. Does that make you more likely to orgasm if you engage in middle-of-the-night nooky? Scientists aren't sure, but go ahead and experiment!

8. You're more likely to have gas.
You won't be happy to hear this, but during the night, your anal sphincter muscles loosen slightly, making it easier to let out a toot or two. Luckily, your sense of smell (and your spouse's) are reduced while you sleep-that's why fire alarms were invented, because it's hard to smell smoke while you're snoozing. So even if you experience flatulence, rest assured: Nobody is likely to notice.

9. You may have a full-body spasm.
"As people fall asleep, many of them experience a full-body jerk, and it's totally normal," says Dr. Shives. As many as 70% of people experience this phenomenon in which muscles suddenly contract (the technical name for it is "hypnic jerk"). Some experts think that these spasms may have to do with anxiety and/or an irregular sleep schedule, while others think they're unavoidable. So if you like to snuggle with your spouse as you wind down in bed, be sure to pry yourselves apart before you're both out cold, or else you may accidentally shake each other awake.

10. Collagen production in your skin increases.
Collagen is a protein that strengthens blood vessels and gives skin its elasticity. When you're asleep, you're in a fasting state, so growth hormone is released to tell your fat cells to release energy stores-as it turns out, growth hormone also stimulates collagen growth. "Since collagen production spikes while you sleep, moisturizing facial creams that contain retinols and retinoids are best to use before bed because these products boost collagen turnover, combat pigment problems and fight fine lines and wrinkles," says Melanie Palm, MD, a dermatologist in Solana Beach, CA, an assistant clinical professor at the University of California, San Diego, and a staff physician at Scripps Encinitas Memorial Hospital.

and for those that know.....


heh.

and yes, someone got me the messenger bag with this! (thanx Chris!) (awwwww yeah)

Cleanly and with passion QOTD

I’ve always been into it in fantasy going way back, and in practice taking what I could, playing around the edges of vanilla relationships. What I’ve come to realize about myself is that I cannot be happy without a strong D/s, s/m element in my lover. I feed to deeply with it for me to try to patch together a relationship, no matter how loving, without having it. So, realizing that I got involved. Started on a path to become the kind of man who can be trusted to Top a woman cleanly and with passion, and tried to find partners for whom my roles, fantasies, my dominant and sadistic nature is not an undesirable or merely tolerated inconvenience, but an asset, something prized and sought.
~ Master Foxx





random sexy saturday

from here: http://allpoetry.com/poem/10292455-Dominatrix----Monorhyme---by-Black_Narcissus
A dominatrix said to me
if you like pain then we shall see
just how excruciatingly
your pain greets sensuality.
I looked at her quite nervously
but answered with servility.
She cracked her whip quite rhythmically
it touched my flesh arousingly,
more, more, I purred excitedly
she smiled at me salaciously,
' You are my slave you must agree
' ' Oh yes ' I groaned compliantly.
I gave myself most willingly
as she looked down imposingly,
her servant I will always be
subservient to tyranny,
I am the lock and she the key
that opens my frigidity.