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Are you really a submissive / potential pet or slave or is it just masturbation fodder?

Are you really capable of putting My needs before every single one of your own?

To think about how a situation will affect Me before how it affects you? "Will this be pleasing to DJ?" – That is what true submission looks like.

You have to want to do anything and everything, under any circumstance, wherever, whenever it is asked or demanded of you, to please Me. I must always come first. Whatever I ask of you, you must do without question, (of course contractual agreements and limits would be respected) but...could you do that?

If, despite and in spite of all the above, you still feel that it’s for you? You must always approach and interact with respect. Manners are very important – they show intelligence and sincerity as well. Stating your truth and what you're really seeking is key, answer questions from Me honestly --so we can better build our D/s bond Be yourself. Above all, be HONEST. If you lie, you’ll defeat the object of this endeavor.

Many guys twist the BDSM world for masturbation fodder, and I suppose that's ok -- but, you need to realize that fantasizing about serving Me (to get off essentially) and really putting in the work of a pet are two different things.

...but am i?

Something that came to mind today while I was on the phone and creating some mp3's. Many of my callers seem to have a genuine fear or concern that "they are the only one" that ever thought _______

9.7 /10 times they are not...very rarely does someone come up with something so out there, so unique I've not heard of it before...

so this is for you: the new caller, the new sub, the new seeker....(capitalization based on BDSM protocols) This isn't a real life conversation/poem, but it could heart breaks for those that feel alone and it is one more reason I do what I do.

...but am i??

i seek to serve a Domme, one who will be my Goddess;

a beauty with wisdom beyond my comprehension.

A Woman so clearly out of my league, yet i'm compelled;

compelled to reach out to seek Her.

i find Her, a wonder with grey eyes and a quick wit.

One who speaks very matter-of-factly but isn't cruel.

but...i have a secret.

i've not spoken of it to anyone.

i like to wear panties and pretend i'm a girl.

i call this Marvel; She listens--without interruption to my tale.

i ask her rhetorically, "It seems that i must be the only one that does this??"

She is thoughtful, choosing words like daggers to throw precisely.

"No, there are many men that wish to be a woman and visa- versa.

rarely is someone so far  out there that they are the only one."

i voice cracking...."but am i?"

Working towards a no touch orgasm

How to:

Relax and get comfortable. This is pretty self-explanatory; whatever works for you works for you. I usually sit down (so I don't fall asleep) late at night on my bed, wrapped up in blankets, with headphones on when I feel like listening to something relaxing. I very much recommend making sure to stay warm. If you feel more comfortable being naked, by all means be naked. I personally feel more relaxed fully dressed.

Breathe naturally. You don't need to take in deep breaths, just natural breaths. If you find your heart beating faster and your breathing rate increasing, that's a good thing – it means you're getting aroused. Just keep everything relaxed and don't rush it.

Move slowly. I cannot stress this enough. I usually spend between 20 and 120 minutes before I start having the actual orgasm. Take in every taste, touch, and odor. Imagine the warmth and moisture of her lips, of her vagina...take in everything.

Don't let your mind wander. I suck at staying focused on one task. If you start to notice your mind wandering, do something physical to bring your mind back to the sexual. Rub a nipple, move your hand down your chest, thigh, whatever it takes. (Just keep in mind this is a no-touch orgasm, at least with regard to your genitals.)

Emotional response. This is the thing that kept me from finally achieving it for months – although now that I know it, it seems so obvious. Men don't really need to put any emotional value into sex to have an orgasm, but having a no-touch orgasm is a completely different ballgame. Don't just imagine yourself banging any hot chick; instead, choose someone that you simply adore. Even if they're not exactly the most attractive person you've met, you'll find that imagining a "first time" with this specific person, if you hadn't already, is much more orgasm-inducing than fantasizing about some random porn star.

Last words of advice. Keep it clean. Find out for yourself how to separate the orgasm from ejaculation; this way, you'll realize you don't exactly need to ejaculate to achieve this, though I still have a few times. Try something a little different every time. Try doing it your own way, too. Fantasies of teachers with big breasts are nice, yet without even realizing it, many like to really go all out with fantasies, making it more visual than full-body and harder to have the no-touch orgasm. Just remember, if you decide to choose such a fantasy, it takes much more concentration. Also, don't force any thoughts in or out of your head. I was once a kid, too, and I know random guy's asses will pop in and out here and there – and even though you might think that's gross, just keep your mind on track and don't freak out. Have fun and best of luck with the No-Touch! (check it out)

The Gain from Pain --why BDSM can be good for you!

Sadomasochism, or sexual enjoyment from giving or receiving pain, may be a meditative experience and in some cases may lead to an altered state of consciousness, new research suggests. Consensual sadomasochism was long considered pathological, but psychologists studying people interested in BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism) have failed to find evidence that these sexual practices are harmful. One study, published in May 2013, actually found that practitioners of BDSM were better off than the general population in some ways, including having secure relationships and lower anxiety. Currently, the psychiatrists' definitive handbook, the DSM-5, lists BDSM as a paraphilia, or unusual sexual fixation, but only classifies it as a disorder if it causes harm. If sadomasochism is not a pathology as once believed, the question is why some people engage in these painful sexual behaviors, said James Ambler, a graduate student in psychology at Northern Illinois University. "It seems, on the surface, very paradoxical," Ambler told Live Science. [Hot Stuff? 10 Unusual Sexual Fixations] The gain from pain To find out, Ambler recruited "switches," or people in the SM community who like both receiving pain and giving pain. Fourteen switches, 10 of whom were women, agreed to be assigned one of those two roles for the night by roll of the die. Before and after their sexual experience, the volunteers completed a cognitive test called the Stroop task, in which they saw a word for a color written in a color other than what the word said ("blue" written in red, for example). It's hard for the brain to read the word correctly when the color of the letters clashes with the meaning, making this a widely used test of cognitive abilities. The volunteers also filled out questionnaires about their feelings of "flow" during the sadomasochistic experience. Flow is a state of focus and enjoyment that people feel when fully immersed in a task. The results showed that people playing the pain-receiving role showed poorer Stroop task scores, which are seen with short-term reductions of functions in a part of the brain called the dorsolateral prefrontal cortexAmbler said. This region is linked to executive control, working memory and other higher-level functions. The pain that comes with sadomasochistic sex may cause the brain to shunt blood flow away from this region, causing a subjectively altered state of consciousness — and the appeal of SM, Ambler said. "Part of the reason these SM activities may be so extreme, at some level, is that they're particularly effective at causing the brain to change its distribution of blood flow," he said. [51 Sultry Facts About Sex] People on the giving end of the pain got benefits, too. Both sides of the equation reported similar levels of flow during their sexual "scene." Spiritual, not sexual The findings hint that sadomasochism isn't entirely about sex. A second study, conducted by Ellen Lee, a graduate student in psychology at Northern Illinois University, with her advisor, Brad Sagarin, and their BDSM Research Team, focused on a nonsexual — but very painful — ritual performed by some in the community. Called the "Dance of Souls," this ritual involves people getting temporary skin piercings, through which hooks attached to ropes are placed. The ropes of one person are connected to those on others in the group or to a fixed object and are pulled taut as music or drums are played. These events are also known as "energy pulls" and are seen as primarily spiritual, not sexual, Sagarin told Live Science.

The researchers surveyed 22 participants in one of these rituals at a kink community conference in California. Five participants who were hooked agreed to participate, as well as nine supporters (who make sure group members are OK during the ritual) and eight observers. The participants filled out surveys about their stress, emotions, flow and the extent to which they felt their own selves overlapped with others at the event. They also gave saliva samples to test their cortisol, a hormone that spikes during stress.

Unsurprisingly, given the pain, cortisol levels went up during the ritual. But something odd happened: Participants reported feeling less stressed.

"We see this interesting disconnect," Sagarin said. "We think this may be indicative of the types of altered states of consciousness people might be seeking."

The effect might not be so different from what people experience when they push their bodies during yoga, or even during meditation, he said. People who complete the energy pull ritual also report feeling more connected to others, he added.

The brain effects Ambler found might provide an explanation. The dorsolateral prefrontal cortex is responsible, in part, for distinguishing self from other, he said. If less blood flows to the brain during these intensely painful experiences, the result may be a feeling of oneness.

The researchers hope that future research will involve closer, minute-by-minute monitoring of participants to delve into how the physiological and the psychological are linked. The findings are interesting both because they illuminate that link and because sadomasochism may not be quite as fringe as psychologists once thought, the researchers said.

"Research would suggest that a substantial minority of people do either fantasize or participate in these activities," Sagarin said. "There is relevance to it in terms of the number of people either directly or indirectly involved."

The researchers presented their findings last week at the annual meeting of the Society for Personality and Social Psychology in Austin, Texas.

Think Your way to orgasm? possible or not?

Several months ago, Lady Gaga told an interviewer for New Yorkmagazine, “I don’t know if this is too much, but I can actually mentally give myself an orgasm. You know, sense memory is quite powerful.” Mentally give herself an orgasm? Is that even possible? Well, for you lucky women who have experienced the sensation yourself, you know it is, and for all you doubters or non-believers, new research suggests it’s not only possible to achieve a mental orgasm, but it’s something that can be learned, too. Dr. Barry Komisaruk, co-author ofThe Science Of Orgasm, says that brain image scanners show that “the pleasure centers of the brain associated with orgasm light up in women who think themselves to orgasm in exactly the same way as in women who orgasm through more conventional means.” These women who thought themselves to orgasm may have all experienced the same sensation, but they all arrived there in different ways. “Some women used a combination of breathing exercises and fantasy,” Komisaruk says. “While others used their imagination and pelvic floor exercises.” Even their fantasies varied. “Some imagined erotic scenarios. But others imagined very romantic scenes such as a lover whispering to them. Others pictured more abstract sensual experiences, such as walking along a beach or imagining waves of energy moving through their body.”
So, is thinking yourself to orgasm as easy as fantasizing some sexy scenes and doing a little deep breathing? Not exactly, but that’s a big part of it, sex researchers say. According to sex therapist Paula Hall: “Women in particular need to feel relaxed and safe in order to let go and enjoy sex fully.” So doing exercises that alleviatestress and anxiety and make us feel more deeply relaxed will go a long way in helping women reach orgasm, either mentally or through physical stimulation. Dr. Komisaruk regularly sees women who both have trouble reaching orgasms and those “with intense feelings of sexual desire that don’t go away even when they do have orgasms.” He coaches them through MRI scans, giving them mental techniques to use, like counting and visualization, that will increase or decrease sexual excitement. The thought is that as these women “see images of their brains lighting up and cooling down in response to their thoughts and mental exercises,” they can eventually use these techniques in the bedroom, too. So, ladies: counting, visualization, and breathing — that’s apparently all it takes to think oneself to orgasm. And if you don’t get there the first time, try, try, try again. At least, that’s what the doctors advise.

I didn't write this...however I did find it fascinating...and wanted to share.

What do you think?

random sexy saturday

from here:
A dominatrix said to me
if you like pain then we shall see
just how excruciatingly
your pain greets sensuality.
I looked at her quite nervously
but answered with servility.
She cracked her whip quite rhythmically
it touched my flesh arousingly,
more, more, I purred excitedly
she smiled at me salaciously,
' You are my slave you must agree
' ' Oh yes ' I groaned compliantly.
I gave myself most willingly
as she looked down imposingly,
her servant I will always be
subservient to tyranny,
I am the lock and she the key
that opens my frigidity.

she's my cherry pie...and baby talk dirty to me!


hair bands...delish...delish...delish..<3 rip Jani Lane you were a sexy mofo! themesong:


and i know you like it tooooooo...

Spoil the DJ time dress and swimsuit needed. send gift card stat. That is all. also, hello kitty/gift card time to spoil Your goddess! DJ

the theme continues....

female POV of course. :) heh. pretty good for those of you that are clueless on eating pussy! (just sayin') D to the J

100% reason to remember my name.

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