Clothespins and BDSM

Clothespins can be a wonderful addition to BDSM play and are relatively easy to learn how to use. Many new comers to BDSM start with things like clothespins. Clothespins are usually used to give the sensation of pain to certain body parts. They can create many sensations and even increase the intensity of orgasm. With some caution and imagination clothespins can be used in any number of deviously enjoyable ways.

Most frequently, clothespins are used on the tits, especially on nipples. Clothespins can be placed on the nipples in many positions. You can start from clothespins pointing straight onto the nipple, not from the side, gripping the base of the nipple, not the tip. This does not have the same sort of ‘bite’ as grasping the nipple alone may, and often does wonderful things for sensitivity without causing pain. Pointing straight out is an especially deviant way to clothespin your partner.
You can clamp the nipple only, or work gradually out from the areola as your partner’s ability to enjoy more increases. The soft flesh under the nipple is a great place to experiment. You can also clothespin on sideways, with the nipple centered in the the hole in the clamping area. If you do this far enough back on the nipple base or areola, the tip of a large nipple will remain exposed for other things, such as ice, nibbling, or smaller clips and clamps.

The nipple is the classical place to begin practice of clothespin play.. But many areas of the body might do well with a bit of clamping either for sensation or visual appeal. There are other parts to decorate your body with clothespins such as inner thighs, the webbing between toes and fingers, scrotum, along the shaft of a penis, labias, clitoris, behind the knees and inside the elbows, and even the tonge. Generally, the clothespins can be used on any part of the body where you can ‘pinch’ up a fold of skin for the clothespins to grab.

A chain that runs through a pair or set of clothespins will add to the enjoyment. As your partner moves, the chain will cause the part of the body the clothespin is attached to move as well, creating a wonderful sensation of weight and pain. You can create a row, circle on the belly or back, a belt of clothespins round the waist, a circle round the thighs as a reminder to keep them spread, etc.

Don’t allow any clamping device to remain in place longer than 20 minutes maximum! The clothespins create the erotic sensations by cutting off the blood circulation. The whole idea of clamping is creating condensed erotic pain when the blood flow starts recirculating back into the unclamped tissues. When left in place too long, or placed where they can crush or damage tissue and internal structures, such as the delicate blood vessels of the penile shaft or the hood of the clitoris, watch out! Never clamp any piece of flesh near to dense blood vessels, to avoid damaging nerves, or internal structures, such as the corpus cavernosum and corpus spongiosum of the penis, and tissues of the clitoral hood in women. Any damage to these structures can be permanent and cause lifelong pain and suffering.
Stay safe and sane by removing the clothespins until you are more familiar with how your partner’s body responds to them.

Pulling off a clothespin is more painful than squeezing the legs to remove it gently. Taking the closthepins off causes a stronger rush of pain than putting them on. That’s because the blood is rushing back to that area of the body. If your partner is anxious, instruct him or her to take a deep breath and gently squeeze the legs of the wooden closthespin until it comes off.

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Let's talk prostate stimulation!

A prostate orgasm is an orgasm in men derived primarily through stimulation of theprostate gland, rather than the more conventional penile stimulation. The organ is often compared to the Gräfenberg Spot, or G-Spot, in women, which reportedly induces more intense orgasms than sole stimulation of the genitals. A prostate orgasm is achieved by massaging the prostate gland, found near the anterior part of the rectal wall. Some experts believe that achieving a prostate orgasm can reduce the symptoms of and preventprostatitisand benign prostatic hyperplasia. On the other hand, the methods used to induce the orgasm can result in numerous health risks, most common of which is periprostatic hemorrhaging.
The prostate gland's chief function in males is to store prostatic fluid, a milky-white substance that comprises up to 30 percent of an individual's semen at ejaculation. The prostate normally gets stimulated during conventional sexual stimulation, secreting the fluid when an individual achieves orgasm. Individuals have found that more direct stimulation of the gland results in sensations comparable to sexual pleasure, making a prostate orgasm fully possible. In numerous reports, prostate stimulation has been found to be more intense than genital stimulation, leading some individuals to prefer prostate orgasms over conventional ones.

The gland is located near the inferior posterior end of the urinary bladder in males. Given its position, there is no way to directly stimulate the prostate. Most individuals interested in inducing a prostate orgasm do so by massaging the gland through the anterior rectal wall, accessed via the anus. Individuals can use their fingers or other implements to locate the chestnut-sized organ and gently rub it. If the intensity and frequency of the stimulation is sufficient, individuals will be able to achieve orgasm.
Medical experts believe that the prostate massages used to achieve orgasms can be beneficial to an individual's long-term health. As early as the 1960s, doctors had been using prostate orgasm as a treatment for prostate swelling; in some cases of prostatitis, the massage was sometimes sufficient enough to cure patients of the condition. This has led some experts to argue that continued prostate massaging can help prevent common prostate disorders.
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Facets of Mistress DJ

I am always intrigued when guys are surprised to find out or discover another facet of "me."

include religious beliefs, experiences, musical taste, vanilla hobbies etc. So, to help you boys out here is a getting to know me!!

#1 Are you an animal lover or would you avoid keeping animals at home?
Are you kidding?? I am a crazy cat lady!! I also have two dogs...I would have more critters if I could figure out how!

#2 Do you like summer or winter?
Summer all the way -- I hate being cold.

#3 Would you diet or would you work out?
Work out, I like my food.

#4 What do you wear to bed?
If it's not snowy/cold outside: nothing or a t shirt -- if it's cooler a proper sexy nightie

#5 What’s your favorite clothing brand?
ummm??? *rattles brain trying to think of a brand* um there is a shirt -- gildian or something like that -- it's super soft -- got a t shirt from a fundraiser for's really really soft so whoever that company is.

#6 When was the last time you cried?
a few minutes ago -- watching the Revolution reunited shortly after Prince's death.

#7 Which color reflects your personality and why?
hmm -- rich brown, coral, sunny yellow -- sometimes black.
rich brown -- I'm down to earth -- coral - my name dawn has corals and pinks, sunny yellow I'm blonde and black is classic

#8 In the animal kingdom, which animal would you be?
hmmm something that sits up in a tree or in a cave and watches others

#9 Do you like tattoos and body piercing?
sure -- on other people.

#10 How much PDA is acceptable? 
depends on the situation

#11 How often do you take a shower?
shower?? maybe daily -- bath definitely daily

#12 What are your favorite magazines?
stuff with peoples true stories in them

#13 What are your favorite books?
Stephen king anything...yaya sisterhood is a favorite...

#14 What’s your favorite movie?
currently?? anything with either Anakin Skywalker or Darth Vader (Star Wars)

#15 What’s your favorite music you’re listening to these days?
Country - Blake Shelton

#16 What’s your favorite alcoholic drink?
I don't drink

#17 What’s your favorite vacation idea?
anywhere with a beach

#18 What’s your favorite food?
Toast, second round draft pick is cheese curds, third is chicken strips

#19 Who’s your favorite actor?
bullshit - I want three: James Spader, Joaquin Phoenix, Danny DeVito (there's probably more but I'd totally love to be the fluff in that fluffernutter sammich!)

#20 If you found a briefcase of money on the street, would you keep it?
Who are you and what do you know? I would turn it in to local authorities.

#21 Are you religious?
Yes, Sabbath keeping Christian (but not a member of any one "doctrine".)

#22 Are you a gizmo person?
like the gremlin? do I like fidget spinners? what the fuck?
I tinker sometimes? I don't know what this wants from me!!!

#23 What kind of sport do you like?
running, golf, football, basketball...

#24 Clubbing or candlelight dinner?
eesh?? those are my only picks??? I guess dinner...

#25 Earth Hour or Fourth of July fireworks?
Who writes these??? what is earth hour?? I guess fireworks though I don't like loud noises.

#26 Backpacking or a luxury hotel?

#27 Christmas or Halloween?
Neither? I guess Christmas out of the two...

#28 Are you a morning person?
not. at. fucking. all.

#29 What’s your philosophy in life?
Try not to be a dick.

#30 When was the last time you were happy you lied?
Spared someone's feelings that wanted to go on a date.

#31 What comes to your mind when you think of your exes? 
Men can be unreliable and icky.

#32 Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
both at times?

#33 What’s your idea of romance?
spontaneous gestures. it doesn't fit in a box.

#34 Would you like to live in the countryside or in a metropolitan area?
I don't ever want to live in the city again.

#35 When did you lose your virginity?
oh jeez, next question??? I was in my 20's

#36 What’s your favorite body part of the opposite sex?
Eyes and brain (tie)

#37 What’s the wildest thing you’ve done sexually? 
Now, you're asking a Domme this! In the dungeon?? probably something that required the sybian or fucking machine (someone else) personally?? probably involved being outside...

#38 Do you think money can buy happiness?
not at all - usually causes more issues.

#39 The world would be a better place if…?
people were more empathetic

#40 Do you have any social causes that are close to your heart?
Animals, sex-trafficked people (not in the industry by choice), endangered species

#41 What do you do over the weekends?
Same thing I do everyday -- try to take over the world. Usually on Niteflirt -- housework, yard work...sit in the sun when it's around...

#42 Would you mind if I had a best friend of the opposite sex?
nah, if you were my partner -- you know where your bread is buttered.

#43 Which was the worst phase in your life?
high school

#44 What was the happiest moment in your life?
too many to count -- probably sometime dancing outside

#45 Do you judge a book by its cover?
a book book? maybe. People? no.

#46 What’s your political stance?
libertarian -- Morally I really could care less about what the fuck people want to's all want to marry same sex?  doesn't affect me. You didn't mean to get pregnant and want an abortion? doesn't affect me. Those choices affect parties involved...Financially I don't think the government should get 5% of what they currently take.

#47 Do you watch porn and what’s your view on it?
Sometimes -- usually sent to me -- it's overrated and sets people up for disappointment (expectations) it's a movie -- pretend...some of it's interesting I suppose...good way for people to convey to me what they like -- what I like in porn is pretty limited.

#48 Do you believe in karma?
oh yes, it's real. It's in every religion too.

#49 Do you plan your life or live for the moment?
Try to plan...but shit happens.

#50 Do you think life is fair?
I think life is what you make it.

#51 If you were marooned on an island, what are the five things you would take with you? 
the Bible, a way to have safe water (pot to boil or something) a way to make fire (flint/steel) a sharp tool (axe/machete etc) and a ready to go boat? lol

#52 Would you sulk or would you confront?

#53 Are you addicted to anything?

#54 Any current news that’s caught your attention?
government shutdown.

#55 What are your favorite apps that you use often?
line play, snoopy town, twitter, facebook

#56 Are you an optimist or a pessimist?

#57 What do you have for breakfast?
varies daily -- today was oatmeal

#58 How often do you make your bed?
hee hee -- I have minions for that!! j/k I spread it up daily -- make it once a week when sheets get changed.

#59 If you knew you were right, would you take a stand even if you know you would make a scene in public or would you let it go?
call me ms scenemaker

#60 What’s an absolute no-no in a relationship?
unspoken infidelity.