Showing posts with label the more you know. Show all posts
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when you wish....you were "one of the cool kids"
Realize instead that:
Challenge for the new year:
Be happy in your own skin!
1. Get real.
Do the work to get clear about who you are—not just who you routinely consider yourself to be, the person you habitually show the world—but who you are in the deepest recesses of your authentic heart and soul.
The word “authenticity” is misunderstood sometimes. People think of it as a virtue, like honesty . . . like you owe the world your authenticity and you should feel bad if you’re not authentic. That’s not the case. I’m not suggesting you should become more authentic because it will make you a better person—you already are a phenomenal person. I’m telling you that becoming more authentic is your golden ticket—to joy, to success, to vibrant health and energy, to easily manifesting the life of your dreams. It’s every bit that transformative. You’re not doing this to better serve the world; you’re doing it to better serve you. But—happy bonus!—it happens to be the best way to serve your loved ones and the world as well.
2. Adore YOU.
If you’ve been on a personal development path for a while, I’m probably not the first to suggest that you need to love yourself. But I’m surprised to discover how often my students don’t really seem to know why I’m so insistent on that point. Are you tired of hearing about how you need to love yourself more? Does the thought of it feel kind of like of a burden—one more thing to check off your To-Do list? Does the whole concept feel a bit worn-out and cliché? Maybe you just need to understand what’s in it for you. Self-love is the fastest route to literally anything you want right now. Money, love, health, romance . . . it all hinges on your level of self-love. The circumstances of your life are always providing you a crystal-clear, precisely accurate measure of how much you love yourself and what you believe you deserve. All you can ever create is what you believe you’re worthy of experiencing. It’s an immutable energetic law. That’s why elevating self-love is the not-so-secret path to elevating everything else.
3. Trust your wants.
Stop trying to justify and rationalize your most heartfelt desires. Your desires are the clearest indicator of who you are. Denying them is denying you. No one needs to understand why you want what you want. You don’t even need to understand it yourself. Just trust it, and trust yourself to manifest it. The reason you don’t already have everything you want is crazy-simple. You don’t love yourself enough yet to deeply believe that you deserve everything you want. My students argue that sometimes, but they always discover it’s true. You might even believe, on a conscious level, that you do deserve a certain thing, but I promise you that if you were fully, wholly believing you deserved it—even in the cobwebby corners of your unconscious belief system—it would already be in your life.
4. Stop trying to vanquish the “bad stuff.”
And stop whining about it, too. Celebrate our unwanted circumstances because there’s so much valuable information for us in them. Get clear on why your unwanted circumstances are here and why you created them. Then use them as a springboard. Once you can start genuinely thanking “the bad stuff”, it’s pretty easy to move past it.
5. Take responsibility.
Own every last drop of everything you’ve ever created. We’re so conditioned to blame our unwanted circumstances on other people, or on the “system” or the world . . . What if it’s really all within your control? Taking full responsibility for the life you’ve created for yourself and the life you’re in the process of creating is hugely empowering. But it requires first getting uber-honest to a degree that’s terrifying for most people. Don’t be “most people.” Understanding that you alone are holding the reins on your life is the first critical step toward learning how to operate them.
6. Stop tolerating.
Tolerating is slow emotional suicide. It sucks the life out of you, drains your energy, numbs you, depletes you, and keeps you immobilized. There’s no reason for you to ever tolerate anything. We sometimes confuse tolerating with accepting—we all know it’s good to accept the things we can’t change, right? If we make very clear distinctions between what can be changed and what can’t, then it’s astounding the kinds of life-altering adjustments people are able to easily, joyfully make when they understand the underlying reasons they’ve been tolerating things.
7. Get out of the spin cycle.
Where in your life are you on autopilot, creating the same situation for yourself (in essence) over and over again? Maybe you keep dating the same romantic partner. Maybe the current model is better looking, or more successful, or slightly more open than the one before, but in essence you’re with a lover who triggers your tried-and-true insecurities, defense mechanisms, and familiar unhealthy spirals. Or maybe you find yourself in the same employment dynamic over and over again—even if you change careers completely. Maybe you’ve attracted a series of supervisors, or a series of friends, who stir up the not-good-enough feelings a parent invoked for you as a child. Escape the spin cycle by learning how to look closely at how these patterns develop and how to benefit from the opportunities they offer.
8. Permanently shift your beliefs.
Focus on the deliberate rewiring of your belief system because your beliefs are determining everything you experience as your reality. That’s not New-Age speak anymore; it’s common knowledge. It’s why researchers always have to use placebo control groups whenever they test any drug. If they don’t have a group taking a sugar pill, their findings won’t be considered valid by the agencies that govern pharmaceuticals. In pain-control experiments, when a new pain pill is tested, fully half of the sufferers who are given a placebo will report having less pain. The mind is that powerful and the scientific community knows it. Changing your mind will change your life. Many of your limiting beliefs are not unique to you; our culture suffers from a long-standing epidemic of crappy shared beliefs. Most of us, at some level, harbor the same fears, the same tragic self-doubts, and the same profound longings to be liberated from our self-made prisons. In our outer circumstances, we may vary greatly, but at deeper levels, this is seldom the case. If you aren’t living the precisely blissful, richly textured life you crave, take the steps to discover which of your beliefs are keeping you from it and what you can do about that.
9. Dream loudly.
Stop limiting yourself according to what seems practical. Practical goals do not inspire enough passion to propel you toward their certain fruition. As John F. Kennedy wisely surmised, “The problems of the world cannot possibly be solved by skeptics or cynics whose horizons are limited by the obvious realities. We need men who can dream of things that never were.” Be those men (and women.).
10. Live passionately.
Once you’ve done the self-examination work to uncover your most delicious desires, don’t pussyfoot toward them. Hurl yourself recklessly in their direction! Trust that the Universe wildly adores you and is always orchestrating on your behalf. It’s been waiting for you to get pumped and grow a pair so that it could swoop in with divine assistance that will leave you breathless.
Can a woman commit rape?
Of course.
The Mantra of the BDSM community is safe, sane, CONSENSUAL.
Read that last line again!
CONSENSUAL That said, it is in the news today that Melanie Martinez, a musician ALLEGEDLY raped a long time friend, also female, with a sex toy.
From Wikipedia: Assault by forcible stimulation of female genitalia by a female perpetrator is possible by digital manipulation, oral sex, strap-ons, other dildos or other foreign objects, or tribadism. A telephone survey conducted in 2010 for the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that 43.8% of lesbians reported having been raped, physically abused or stalked at some point by an intimate partner; of these, 67.4% reported the perpetrator or perpetrators as being exclusively female. In the same survey, approximately 1 in 8 lesbians (13.1%) reported having been raped in their lifetime, but the sex of their rapists was not reported.
A 2005 survey by the California Coalition Against Sexual Assault (CALCASA) concluded that one in three lesbian-identified participants had been sexually assaulted by a woman. Fear of coming out, distrust of and/or indifference and hostility by the police, unwillingness to turn in members of the LGBT community, and a sense that female on female rape is not taken as seriously as rape by men causes some victims to be reluctant to report rapes by other women. In one publicized case involving students at Smith College in 2005, two women were charged with the rape of another, but the victim ultimately refused to testify, and charges were dropped.
That said, regardless that she's female and a known musician -- she shouldn't get a pass if she's guilty.
The Mantra of the BDSM community is safe, sane, CONSENSUAL.
Read that last line again!
CONSENSUAL That said, it is in the news today that Melanie Martinez, a musician ALLEGEDLY raped a long time friend, also female, with a sex toy.
From Wikipedia: Assault by forcible stimulation of female genitalia by a female perpetrator is possible by digital manipulation, oral sex, strap-ons, other dildos or other foreign objects, or tribadism. A telephone survey conducted in 2010 for the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that 43.8% of lesbians reported having been raped, physically abused or stalked at some point by an intimate partner; of these, 67.4% reported the perpetrator or perpetrators as being exclusively female. In the same survey, approximately 1 in 8 lesbians (13.1%) reported having been raped in their lifetime, but the sex of their rapists was not reported.
A 2005 survey by the California Coalition Against Sexual Assault (CALCASA) concluded that one in three lesbian-identified participants had been sexually assaulted by a woman. Fear of coming out, distrust of and/or indifference and hostility by the police, unwillingness to turn in members of the LGBT community, and a sense that female on female rape is not taken as seriously as rape by men causes some victims to be reluctant to report rapes by other women. In one publicized case involving students at Smith College in 2005, two women were charged with the rape of another, but the victim ultimately refused to testify, and charges were dropped.
That said, regardless that she's female and a known musician -- she shouldn't get a pass if she's guilty.
When I wrote this story about my assault, I initially wasn’t going to make the abuser. But I think it’s important for you all to know this is about Melanie Martinez pic.twitter.com/4PQ5oNI2s9
— Timothy Heller (@timethyheller) December 4, 2017
Dick pics? Size Matters?? Oh My!!!
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Objectophilia
Objectophilia is a fetished form of sexuality focused on inanimate objects. Usually the object of lust is a specific item or a couple -- not just random items. People that have this sexualized object preference may have feelings of lust, attraction, love, and even seemingly have a relationship to or with certain items or structures relative to their focus. One must wonder if there is a slippery slope with sex toys, blow up dolls and fetishes for items like shoes, panties etc.
I personally want to call it "Nounophillia"
I personally want to call it "Nounophillia"
so whatcha whatcha whatcha want?
Here is another one from the search terms list: “how to please your Dominant”.
Let us back up just a little bit. What happens in a Dominant/submissive relationship? One thing that happens, or should happen, is that the Dominant learns about the submissive. The Dominant should always be learning as much as possible about her submissive. Learn about him as a person, as a submissive, as a sexual being, as a spiritual being. Learn about him who he is, what he likes, how he thinks how he feels, everything about him that a Dominant can know. Reciprocally, the submissive should be learning all she can about his Dominant.
The submissive should learn the Dominant’s likes and dislikes. The submissive should ask when he does not know what those might be in a situation. He should study the Dominant to see when she is pleased and when she is displeased. I recommend submissives keep journals to help them keep track of what things please their Dominants. But that is not all.
Once you learn a thing pleases your Dominant, practice it. Get better at it. This will please your Dominant not just because you do it better, but because your taking time to become better at it for her will be pleasing.
Eproctophilia
fart fetish
Eproctophilia (fart fetish) is a sexual fetish, most commonly in straight men in which they receive arousal from their partner's flatulence. It is sometimes seen as a lighter form of coprophilia, aka scat. Unlike scat however, there are no health risks involved.
Not all eproctophiles enjoy the notorious cake farts. In fact, several of them are just as grossed out as normal people and only a slim minority of them like it. Instead, the majority of them enjoy the smell and/or sound their partner's farts make.
The more you know!
Eproctophilia (fart fetish) is a sexual fetish, most commonly in straight men in which they receive arousal from their partner's flatulence. It is sometimes seen as a lighter form of coprophilia, aka scat. Unlike scat however, there are no health risks involved.
Not all eproctophiles enjoy the notorious cake farts. In fact, several of them are just as grossed out as normal people and only a slim minority of them like it. Instead, the majority of them enjoy the smell and/or sound their partner's farts make.
The more you know!
Foot worship gone bad
LEWISBURG, HAWAII
Mistress Andrea Spanxx, 24, was left shaken and alarmed after a submissive man, Michael Donovan, 19, grabbed hold of her feet and refused to let go during a foot worship scene gone wrong.
Ashely Kraven, 22, watched as the scene went down. “It got weird fast. Most of us had been staying away from the guy because he seemed nervous and creepy. Once he got Andrea’s boots off, he started screaming ‘they’re mine, they’re mine’ and was screaming something about cutting her feet off and putting them in a shrine.”
Cliff Orsen, the organizer of the foot party said he has never had something like this occur before. “Foot fetishists can be a little odd, but usually not dangerous. We do background checks on the guests. We are looking into how this guy slipped through out screening.”
“I know something was wrong when he wouldn’t let go,” Andrea said, “that doesn’t usually happen.”
Photo credit: Alain-Christian CC: NC SA
Article: http://www.thedailyflogger.com/submissive-man-banned-following-foot-worship-gone-awry/
Mistress Andrea Spanxx, 24, was left shaken and alarmed after a submissive man, Michael Donovan, 19, grabbed hold of her feet and refused to let go during a foot worship scene gone wrong.
Ashely Kraven, 22, watched as the scene went down. “It got weird fast. Most of us had been staying away from the guy because he seemed nervous and creepy. Once he got Andrea’s boots off, he started screaming ‘they’re mine, they’re mine’ and was screaming something about cutting her feet off and putting them in a shrine.”
Cliff Orsen, the organizer of the foot party said he has never had something like this occur before. “Foot fetishists can be a little odd, but usually not dangerous. We do background checks on the guests. We are looking into how this guy slipped through out screening.”
“I know something was wrong when he wouldn’t let go,” Andrea said, “that doesn’t usually happen.”
Photo credit: Alain-Christian CC: NC SA
Article: http://www.thedailyflogger.com/submissive-man-banned-following-foot-worship-gone-awry/
Meanwhile back at the ranch lol
LOS ANGELES, CA
Area dominant “Hemp Master” accidentally tied himself to his sub and girlfriend “Genie” at a local dungeon last Friday night. During a rope scene in which Mr. Master was attempting to try a “few cool new knot tricks” he found himself confoundingly tied up. “Some 30 minutes into the scene I just got completely confused,” Help (not his real name) revealed to this reporter. “I lost track of where my ropes were going and what I was doing. I don’t know what happened next, but before I knew it my left hand was inexorably tangled in Genie’s rope work.”
“I felt him struggling,” said Genie (also not her real name). “He kept swearing under his breath. It really took me out of the scene.”
Hemp Master was forced to call over dungeon master Blade in the hopes that he could help with the puzzle. Unfortunately, the two were unable to extricate the rope man’s hand. “I found a knife,” Blade explained, “but it still took over an hour to free him. I have no clue what this guy did. Knots on top of knots. It was a mess.”
“I think he was rather humiliated,” Genie said before shutting her mouth after receiving an obvious glare from Mr. Master.
Hemp Master reportedly was last seen gathering up bits of rope and yelling at his sub to get in the car. He has not been back at the dungeon since.
Imagine that!
(news from here: http://www.thedailyflogger.com/area-dom-accidentally-ties-himself-to-girlfriend/)
Area dominant “Hemp Master” accidentally tied himself to his sub and girlfriend “Genie” at a local dungeon last Friday night. During a rope scene in which Mr. Master was attempting to try a “few cool new knot tricks” he found himself confoundingly tied up. “Some 30 minutes into the scene I just got completely confused,” Help (not his real name) revealed to this reporter. “I lost track of where my ropes were going and what I was doing. I don’t know what happened next, but before I knew it my left hand was inexorably tangled in Genie’s rope work.”
“I felt him struggling,” said Genie (also not her real name). “He kept swearing under his breath. It really took me out of the scene.”
Hemp Master was forced to call over dungeon master Blade in the hopes that he could help with the puzzle. Unfortunately, the two were unable to extricate the rope man’s hand. “I found a knife,” Blade explained, “but it still took over an hour to free him. I have no clue what this guy did. Knots on top of knots. It was a mess.”
“I think he was rather humiliated,” Genie said before shutting her mouth after receiving an obvious glare from Mr. Master.
Hemp Master reportedly was last seen gathering up bits of rope and yelling at his sub to get in the car. He has not been back at the dungeon since.
Imagine that!
(news from here: http://www.thedailyflogger.com/area-dom-accidentally-ties-himself-to-girlfriend/)
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