hmmmm so the space race...

Ok, so you boys know I love all things space. I am a Star Wars fangirl, I follow and love NASA, Space-X, I track the rovers on Mars and look forward to the moon trip...BUT BUT BUT...what about these boys with their toys? I mean Branson, Besos and Musk? Ok, look, for the most part I think these guys have their hearts in the right place, I know they are all philanthropists. I cannot fault them or be salty towards their success...I have even gone so far to assume out loud that Elon likely has the best sex toys!!!

But, could these billionaires be doing something more productive instead of the "who has the biggest dick?" contest? Perhaps. I think it's a matter of attention honestly. I mean yeah, they could work towards clean water, immunizations and other things to better man-kind -- but when Gates does that, he gets shit on by the press...so these guys can't win for losing.

My concern is that in this pissing match we will lose one of them...and that would be sad. They set a bar really high of excess, but to me, there's a spark in that --that us common folk can use to motivate us! Do I really want to go to space? No, I don't. Am I excited that our space program continues because Elon has an interest in it? you betcha!

so while I think their little space race is a bit...douchey....I will say that I do have respect for all three for different reasons.

I am certainly not full socialist...these guys built a better mousetrap or were in the right place at the right time...I cannot fault them for that. If I ever write the best seller that becomes a movie, or become a galactically famous Domme, I would not want the venom darts aimed at me that are aimed at them...

That said, how was your weekend?

DJ's Bday Month is HERE!!! Holiday Line open through 7-14 (My day!)

Click to send some birthday love! $$$







and....

Holiday line open and....

well, I have two bits of news. First...I found a super fun playlist on youtube. I highly recommmend it! and second: my holiday line is open! Now through Monday night!

How to have a session with a Domme (for first timers)

This can apply for in person sessions or first encounters with a Dominatrix for an online or virtual/telephone session.

I really love intro sessions! It’s an honor to introduce a new submissive to the world of kink. Personally it’s very gratifying to feed off the intensity of an experience that for so many is the culmination of years of longing and fantasy.

Of course those contemplating a first contact, call or session are always anxious, excited and curious about what to expect. Generally my answer to “What can I expect from a session?” is “A BDSM/kink experience at a light to medium level that incorporates your known interests and respects your limits”.

I’m quite sure I’ve disappointed a few newbies with that answer but it’s important to note that very few professional Mistresses will provide a blow by blow description of what will happen in a session. Why is this?

* Functionality. Real play is just that. Real. It’s not edited like the many fetish videos you may have seen. That super hot thing you’ve been dying to try? It may not work for you in real life. During a scene your Domme will be paying close attention to your body language, gauging what is working and what is not. Sometimes the difference between a successful session and a not so great one is the ability to move on from something that’s not working and try something else. The obligation to deliver on a promised script tends to preclude this.

*Timewasters. Unfortunately not everyone who contacts professional Mistresses is sincere. For these people pre-session communication is an erotic experience in itself. They often seek detailed descriptions of proposed session content as a source of free, personalised erotic fiction. (in other words, free wank material.) This tends to make us wary of questions that amount to “What are you going to do to me?”.

* No spoilers! Quality Mistresses will take care to incorporate your specific areas of interest into the play. Part of what makes a session fun and exciting is experiencing just how your Mistress will use her skill and creativity to bring your interests to life. Of course we want you to enjoy your session time. It makes the session time fun for us as well and obviously makes good business sense.

Need to know more? Many quality professional ladies include reviews and testimonials as part of their online presence as well as talking about their sessions on their blogs and social media properties. Perusing these is an excellent way to get a feel for what a session will be like.

Consent:
Quality consent is informed consent. I encourage new players to research widely so they have information about their kinks (including the risks involved) from various sources.

On Nerves:
Even experienced submissives are always nervous before a session.  A first session can feel like a big step. It’s ok to be nervous but as adults it’s my expectation that the people I play with take responsibility for their own emotions. If you’re nervous to the point where you feel you can’t be reliable or you expect the lady you’ve contacted to cajole you in the door you’re probably not ready to make a booking.

links links links...Mistress DJ on many links

so you know many of the places you can find me but there is so much more!!! (lucky you!)

What if you did submit?

Many of us live in a repressed world. We don’t feel safe enough to share our truest, deepest desires with each other. We keep certain fantasies strictly to ourselves, hiding them where no one else is allowed to look. These desires are not allowed into the light — they’re our secret shame, our darkness denied. But privately they remain very rich and real to us. What if you could explore some of those fantasies though? I know you can’t, but what if? What if you could connect with a willing partner where there was such a deep and powerful bond of trust, that you could share more of yourself than you thought possible? What if this connection was so intimate, that sharing with another simply felt like circulating a thought within your own mind? No walls. No secrets. What if you could allow this person into the dark places of your imagination, the parts that have been shamed as sinful, dirty, naughty — labels that imply wrongness and immorality just for thinking about these possibilities, let alone acting on them?

so X od'ed and is on Life Support....

Look, you'd think I'd have very little in common at first glance with DMX but lyrica"lly he was the soundtrack for me through my 20's...that said..."these cats done forgot what work is..." DJ gonna give it to ya. Get well X.

Did you know I had a podcast?

well now you do! Come give a listen!

Corona / Covid how are you faring?

from people becoming ill to state lock downs...
from having to wear a mask to shortages on staples...
It's a struggle, many of ya'll have suffered from this...
For the month of September I will be offering 50% off goodies IF you mention you saw this on my blog (shoot me a note, and I will give you the discounted price) AND...the holiday line will be the COVID line at a discounted rate through September 30th!

There's some hoes in this house...there's some hoes in this house..

This song brings me joy. Cardi is unashamed of her stripper past...I am an unashamed sex worker as well.
I can't imagine life without Domming...
2020 has been a rough one ya'll keep pushing.

Adult Education

What you want is an Adult Education. Want to learn about a kink? explore a fetish? Roleplay something you never dared? I gotchu! Look 20 years of experience, study and Domming….I'll help you get there...and if I can't? I will help you on your journey to find it!

flrt.me/MistressDJ

www.mistressdj.com
Call me, let's explore!

Podcast!

In case you didn't know. I have a podcast! There will be throwback audios, interviews, commentaries and fun!!

Go listen!

Welcome Fall! My tribute to the change of seasons.

Haikus by me

She is like sunrise; beckoning you to serve her as the day begins.

Cancerian child Waiting for the moon to rise I whisper "hurry"

Horizon set eyes; Forward the only option Gratitude the fuel...

She is like nightfall; Her darkness is in contrast to Her radiance.

...but am i?

Something that came to mind today while I was on the phone and creating some mp3's. Many of my callers seem to have a genuine fear or concern that "they are the only one" that ever thought _______

9.7 /10 times they are not...very rarely does someone come up with something so out there, so unique I've not heard of it before...

so this is for you: the new caller, the new sub, the new seeker....(capitalization based on BDSM protocols) This isn't a real life conversation/poem, but it could be...my heart breaks for those that feel alone and it is one more reason I do what I do.



...but am i??

i seek to serve a Domme, one who will be my Goddess;

a beauty with wisdom beyond my comprehension.

A Woman so clearly out of my league, yet i'm compelled;

compelled to reach out to seek Her.

i find Her, a wonder with grey eyes and a quick wit.

One who speaks very matter-of-factly but isn't cruel.

but...i have a secret.

i've not spoken of it to anyone.

i like to wear panties and pretend i'm a girl.

i call this Marvel; She listens--without interruption to my tale.

i ask her rhetorically, "It seems that i must be the only one that does this??"

She is thoughtful, choosing words like daggers to throw precisely.

"No, there are many men that wish to be a woman and visa- versa.

rarely is someone so far  out there that they are the only one."

i pause...my voice cracking...."but am i?"

Clothespins and BDSM

Clothespins can be a wonderful addition to BDSM play and are relatively easy to learn how to use. Many new comers to BDSM start with things like clothespins. Clothespins are usually used to give the sensation of pain to certain body parts. They can create many sensations and even increase the intensity of orgasm. With some caution and imagination clothespins can be used in any number of deviously enjoyable ways.

Most frequently, clothespins are used on the tits, especially on nipples. Clothespins can be placed on the nipples in many positions. You can start from clothespins pointing straight onto the nipple, not from the side, gripping the base of the nipple, not the tip. This does not have the same sort of ‘bite’ as grasping the nipple alone may, and often does wonderful things for sensitivity without causing pain. Pointing straight out is an especially deviant way to clothespin your partner.

You can clamp the nipple only, or work gradually out from the areola as your partner’s ability to enjoy more increases. The soft flesh under the nipple is a great place to experiment. You can also clothespin on sideways, with the nipple centered in the the hole in the clamping area. If you do this far enough back on the nipple base or areola, the tip of a large nipple will remain exposed for other things, such as ice, nibbling, or smaller clips and clamps.

The nipple is the classical place to begin practice of clothespin play.. But many areas of the body might do well with a bit of clamping either for sensation or visual appeal. There are other parts to decorate your body with clothespins such as inner thighs, the webbing between toes and fingers, scrotum, along the shaft of a penis, labias, clitoris, behind the knees and inside the elbows, and even the tonge. Generally, the clothespins can be used on any part of the body where you can ‘pinch’ up a fold of skin for the clothespins to grab.

A chain that runs through a pair or set of clothespins will add to the enjoyment. As your partner moves, the chain will cause the part of the body the clothespin is attached to move as well, creating a wonderful sensation of weight and pain. You can create a row, circle on the belly or back, a belt of clothespins round the waist, a circle round the thighs as a reminder to keep them spread, etc.

Don’t allow any clamping device to remain in place longer than 20 minutes maximum! The clothespins create the erotic sensations by cutting off the blood circulation. The whole idea of clamping is creating condensed erotic pain when the blood flow starts recirculating back into the unclamped tissues. When left in place too long, or placed where they can crush or damage tissue and internal structures, such as the delicate blood vessels of the penile shaft or the hood of the clitoris, watch out! Never clamp any piece of flesh near to dense blood vessels, to avoid damaging nerves, or internal structures, such as the corpus cavernosum and corpus spongiosum of the penis, and tissues of the clitoral hood in women. Any damage to these structures can be permanent and cause lifelong pain and suffering.

Stay safe and sane by removing the clothespins until you are more familiar with how your partner’s body responds to them.

Pulling off a clothespin is more painful than squeezing the legs to remove it gently. Taking the closthepins off causes a stronger rush of pain than putting them on. That’s because the blood is rushing back to that area of the body. If your partner is anxious, instruct him or her to take a deep breath and gently squeeze the legs of the wooden closthespin until it comes off.

Let's talk prostate stimulation!

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Facets of Mistress DJ

I am always intrigued when guys are surprised to find out or discover another facet of "me."

Examples:
include religious beliefs, experiences, musical taste, vanilla hobbies etc. So, to help you boys out here is a getting to know me!!

#1 Are you an animal lover or would you avoid keeping animals at home?

Are you kidding?? I am a crazy cat lady!! I also have two dogs...I would have more critters if I could figure out how!

#2 Do you like summer or winter?

Summer all the way -- I hate being cold.

#3 Would you diet or would you work out?

Work out, I like my food.

#4 What do you wear to bed?

If it's not snowy/cold outside: nothing or a t shirt -- if it's cooler a proper sexy nightie

#5 What’s your favorite clothing brand?

ummm??? *rattles brain trying to think of a brand* um there is a shirt -- gildian or something like that -- it's super soft -- got a t shirt from a fundraiser for livescifi...it's really really soft so whoever that company is.

#6 When was the last time you cried?

a few minutes ago -- watching the Revolution reunited shortly after Prince's death.

#7 Which color reflects your personality and why?

hmm -- rich brown, coral, sunny yellow -- sometimes black.

rich brown -- I'm down to earth -- coral - my name dawn has corals and pinks, sunny yellow I'm blonde and black is classic

#8 In the animal kingdom, which animal would you be?

hmmm something that sits up in a tree or in a cave and watches others

#9 Do you like tattoos and body piercing?

sure -- on other people.

#10 How much PDA is acceptable? 

depends on the situation

#11 How often do you take a shower?

shower?? maybe daily -- bath definitely daily

#12 What are your favorite magazines?

stuff with peoples true stories in them

#13 What are your favorite books?

Stephen king anything...yaya sisterhood is a favorite...

#14 What’s your favorite movie?

currently?? anything with either Anakin Skywalker or Darth Vader (Star Wars)

#15 What’s your favorite music you’re listening to these days?

Country - Blake Shelton

#16 What’s your favorite alcoholic drink?

I don't drink

#17 What’s your favorite vacation idea?

anywhere with a beach

#18 What’s your favorite food?

Toast, second round draft pick is cheese curds, third is chicken strips

#19 Who’s your favorite actor?

bullshit - I want three: James Spader, Joaquin Phoenix, Danny DeVito (there's probably more but I'd totally love to be the fluff in that fluffernutter sammich!)

#20 If you found a briefcase of money on the street, would you keep it?

Who are you and what do you know? I would turn it in to local authorities.

#21 Are you religious?

Yes, Sabbath keeping Christian (but not a member of any one "doctrine".)

#22 Are you a gizmo person?

like the gremlin? do I like fidget spinners? what the fuck?

I tinker sometimes? I don't know what this wants from me!!!

#23 What kind of sport do you like?

running, golf, football, basketball...

#24 Clubbing or candlelight dinner?

eesh?? those are my only picks??? I guess dinner...

#25 Earth Hour or Fourth of July fireworks?

Who writes these??? what is earth hour?? I guess fireworks though I don't like loud noises.

#26 Backpacking or a luxury hotel?

backpacking

#27 Christmas or Halloween?

Neither? I guess Christmas out of the two...

#28 Are you a morning person?

not. at. fucking. all.

#29 What’s your philosophy in life?

Try not to be a dick.

#30 When was the last time you were happy you lied?

Spared someone's feelings that wanted to go on a date.

#31 What comes to your mind when you think of your exes? 

Men can be unreliable and icky.

#32 Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

both at times?

#33 What’s your idea of romance?

spontaneous gestures. it doesn't fit in a box.

#34 Would you like to live in the countryside or in a metropolitan area?

I don't ever want to live in the city again.

#35 When did you lose your virginity?

oh jeez, next question??? I was in my 20's

#36 What’s your favorite body part of the opposite sex?

Eyes and brain (tie)

#37 What’s the wildest thing you’ve done sexually? 

Now, you're asking a Domme this! In the dungeon?? probably something that required the sybian or fucking machine (someone else) personally?? probably involved being outside...

#38 Do you think money can buy happiness?

not at all - usually causes more issues.

#39 The world would be a better place if…?

people were more empathetic

#40 Do you have any social causes that are close to your heart?

Animals, sex-trafficked people (not in the industry by choice), endangered species

#41 What do you do over the weekends?

Same thing I do everyday -- try to take over the world. Usually on Niteflirt -- housework, yard work...sit in the sun when it's around...

#42 Would you mind if I had a best friend of the opposite sex?

nah, if you were my partner -- you know where your bread is buttered.

#43 Which was the worst phase in your life?

high school

#44 What was the happiest moment in your life?

too many to count -- probably sometime dancing outside

#45 Do you judge a book by its cover?

a book book? maybe. People? no.

#46 What’s your political stance?

libertarian -- Morally I really could care less about what the fuck people want to do...it's all them...you want to marry same sex?  doesn't affect me. You didn't mean to get pregnant and want an abortion? doesn't affect me. Those choices affect parties involved...Financially I don't think the government should get 5% of what they currently take.

#47 Do you watch porn and what’s your view on it?

Sometimes -- usually sent to me -- it's overrated and sets people up for disappointment (expectations) it's a movie -- pretend...some of it's interesting I suppose...good way for people to convey to me what they like -- what I like in porn is pretty limited.

#48 Do you believe in karma?

oh yes, it's real. It's in every religion too.

#49 Do you plan your life or live for the moment?

Try to plan...but shit happens.

#50 Do you think life is fair?

I think life is what you make it.

#51 If you were marooned on an island, what are the five things you would take with you? 

the Bible, a way to have safe water (pot to boil or something) a way to make fire (flint/steel) a sharp tool (axe/machete etc) and a ready to go boat? lol

#52 Would you sulk or would you confront?

confront.

#53 Are you addicted to anything?

caffeine.

#54 Any current news that’s caught your attention?

government shutdown.

#55 What are your favorite apps that you use often?

line play, snoopy town, twitter, facebook

#56 Are you an optimist or a pessimist?

both.

#57 What do you have for breakfast?

varies daily -- today was oatmeal

#58 How often do you make your bed?

hee hee -- I have minions for that!! j/k I spread it up daily -- make it once a week when sheets get changed.

#59 If you knew you were right, would you take a stand even if you know you would make a scene in public or would you let it go?

call me ms scenemaker

#60 What’s an absolute no-no in a relationship?

unspoken infidelity.